My husband has been having a weird abdominal pain since last week. Last Friday, at 12:00pm I received a text from my hubby saying that he couldn’t stand the pain anymore, so he was being taken to the doctor, and she suggested him that it might be appendicitis so he should go to the Emergency Room. I’m at work so I became anxious. Plus, I was in class so I had to keep calm. After finishing the class, I went to the hospital. He texted me that he felt so scared. He was thinking of what might happen. I told him: “do not freak out. We don’t know what is wrong yet.” But then he told me the reason.
What do you do when you get sick? Yep, you guessed it! He googled the symptoms….that doesn’t help at all!! I told him: Okay, I’m just going to say three things:
1. The doctor hasn’t seen you.
2. You haven’t had any studies done yet so STOP thinking about the worst case scenarios.
3. Our minds are really powerful so because of what you read you may even feel symptoms that aren’t even there.
While I got there, my mother (who is just awesome!) was already there keeping him company. When I finally got there with his favorite jacket, he was just so happy to see me there. He couldn’t stop thanking me for just being there with him. That moment made me stop and think. Sometimes you feel powerless when it comes to these types of situations. All you can do is just be there next to him. He was just sitting there all quiet. All I could do was hug him. He would take that hug with such comfort. Sometimes we do things and we feel that they mean nothing or just not enough, but for them it’s worth millions.
After you get to know your husband or partner, you know if he/she is the type of person that likes it when you show them your love through gifts, gestures, words, or all of them at once. I love to get gifts (handmade), gestures, and words to feel loved. My hubby is the type of person that loves gestures more than words. I learned that a couple of years later.
Together since 2010, he was my one and only “official boyfriend”, so I’ve learned everything with him and I thought that the way to show him my love was the same way that I wanted him to show me his, but it is not. We have to get to that “happy medium” as we call it.
Let them demonstrate their love just the way they are. My husband though that the gifts had to be store bought always. What I really love are gifts done by him. One time we went out to eat. I remember that while we were talking he was playing around with a napkin. After he finished playing with it, he says: “for you”. It was a flower! I still have it by the way. That is more valuable to me than any other gift that was bought at a store. This type of gift was done with love and thinking of me.
Thanks to that detail, I will never forget that Friday night.
We will never get to know our partner 100% but we can have fun doing it!
So how do you like to express your love to your partner?
<3
Melissa
