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Overcome shyness

My first job as a teacher was when I was 23 years old. So I’ll never forget my first class. I just stepped up, breathed in and out before going into the classroom and talking to fifteen year old students (25 of them to be exact). I just started talking and that experience helped me to find the confidence that I needed. The trick is not to let them know you’re nervous. lol

I believed in myself and you know what? I loved this new person that was being born. When I was 16 years old, I though that it was impossible for me to overcome shyness. I still tend to be shy but it is also part of me.

If you are like me, you can leave your shyness behind. It is not something that can magically disappear overnight, but it is possible to overcome it. Many of us have missed out on so many things because of it. Don’t forget that you are not alone and that you can embrace this new stage in your life.

Tips to overcome shyness:

  1. Embrace your Uniqueness. I remember that my myspace url was uniquemely. You can be an identical twin and there is NO ONE in this world like you! And if you are still in the process of self-discovery, don’t give up. Once you do this you will start building your confidence.
  2. Get Rid of Your Fears! It is normal to be afraid, but do not let it control you, you control it. The last time that I went to a concert (September 2016) I went crazy. I sang, I screamed, I jumped, I danced, you name it!! And for the first time I didn’t have any regrets. A couple of weeks before the concert, I was listening to their music (YOUNG THE GIANT, I just Love them!) and I thought to myself: you know what? I don’t care! I’m going to sing and dance as if I was alone in my room because that made me happy! And doing that in the concert made me feel FREE.
  3. Breathe in-Breathe out. There’s nothing better than doing this type of exercise to calm yourself and get rid of your anxieties.
  4. Take Risks. Be courageous, take chances, and have new adventures. This can help you to break out of your shell. You may feel uncomfortable sometimes, but it is worth it.
  5. New People. If you get the chance to meet someone new or are introduced to someone, use “small talk” to get your conversations flowing.
  6. Confident People. My husband helps me a lot. He is NOT SHY AT ALL. He also gives me tips. Get a friend or a family member that can be with you and help you to get the extra push that you need.
  7. Big Voice. Sometimes I still have some trouble with my voice. I’m used to my low voice because I think that if I speak up I’m yelling, but the truth is that I’m not. Get someone to help you so that you can get comfortable to your sound. My students have helped me a lot, lol.

Do you know someone that is shy? Share this post with them! What has worked for you?

<3

Melissa

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Having your husband’s back

My husband has been having a weird abdominal pain since last week. Last Friday, at 12:00pm I received a text from my hubby saying that he couldn’t stand the pain anymore, so he was being taken to the doctor, and she suggested him that it might be appendicitis so he should go to the Emergency Room. I’m at work so I became anxious. Plus, I was in class so I had to keep calm. After finishing the class, I went to the hospital. He texted me that he felt so scared. He was thinking of what might happen. I told him: “do not freak out. We don’t know what is wrong yet.” But then he told me the reason.

What do you do when you get sick? Yep, you guessed it! He googled the symptoms….that doesn’t help at all!! I told him: Okay, I’m just going to say three things:

1. The doctor hasn’t seen you.

2. You haven’t had any studies done yet so STOP thinking about the worst case scenarios.

3. Our minds are really powerful so because of what you read you may even feel symptoms that aren’t even there.

While I got there, my mother (who is just awesome!) was already there keeping him company. When I finally got there with his favorite jacket, he was just so happy to see me there. He couldn’t stop thanking me for just being there with him. That moment made me stop and think. Sometimes you feel powerless when it comes to these types of situations. All you can do is just be there next to him. He was just sitting there all quiet. All I could do was  hug him.  He would take that hug with such comfort. Sometimes we do things and we feel that they mean nothing or just not enough, but for them it’s worth millions.

After you get to know your husband or partner, you know if he/she is the type of person that likes it when you show them your love through gifts, gestures, words, or all of them at once. I love to get gifts (handmade), gestures, and words to feel loved. My hubby is the type of person that loves gestures more than words. I learned that a couple of years later.

Together since 2010, he was my one and only “official boyfriend”, so I’ve learned everything with him and I thought that the way to show him my love was the same way that I wanted him to show me his, but it is not. We have to get to that “happy medium” as we call it.

Let them demonstrate their love just the way they are. My husband though that the gifts had to be store bought always. What I really love are gifts done by him. One time we went out to eat. I remember that while we were talking he was playing around with a napkin. After he finished playing with it, he says: “for you”. It was a flower! I still have it by the way. That is more valuable to me than any other gift that was bought at a store. This type of gift was done with love and thinking of me.

Thanks to that detail, I will never forget that Friday night.

We will never get to know our partner 100% but we can have fun doing it!

So how do you like to express your love to your partner?

<3

Melissa